SnakeNbake said:
I prefer not to get involved in board drama of any kind but I want to say a few things.
Notice: Portions where poster dives headfirst into the drama have been broken into sections.
(By the way, I'm a
huge fan of irony.)
There isn't a troll or jerk poster out there that can make a new pet owner feel bad quite like an experienced owner/breeder can and this thread proves it. Just reading the above post was enough to make me feel unwelcome simply because I'm new, silly, not a snake breeder, and not overly serious all the time. Sure you added plenty of disclaimers but reread your post from a newcomer's point of view and tell me you can't see where I'm coming from here.
First and foremost: Hi, and a belated welcome to the site; I just got done reading your "Mean Adult Snake" thread, and it's utterly hilarious. Good to see that you and Lucif-UM, "Sir Killsalot" are getting by.
We have a few things in common. I too am not overly serious all the time, I've yet to breed any snakes (but that'll end in about 7 weeks), and I'm frequently silly.
And I've read Dean's (Roy Munson) post. And have re-read it. And I disagree wholeheartedly with your perception of it.
I think what you perceive to be "disclaimers" are (from my perspective of someone who is about to become a "hobbyist breeder" (there's a joke in there somewhere, but I have a point to make (if I would only stop embedding parenthesis))) empathetic understandings of someone who has been on the "pet owner" side, and whose passion for the hobby has taken him to the "hobbyist breeder" side. He has made the assertion that pet owners don't have the same passion as hobbyist breeders do. One would presume that to make such an assertion, one would have had to put some mileage on in both pairs of shoes.
Do you want to know what made this board great for me? It wasn't the people who left or the people who were serious all the time. It was the ones like Nanci, blckkt, Fender, Tyflier, etc, who took the time to answer my questions even though hundreds of people before me probably asked the same one.
If those who have left before you arrived here would even have a
remote chance of making this board great for you, I'd really appreciate it if you could:
- contact my father and tell him that I love him and think of him every day. He died in October of 1996.
- Let me know who's going to win the Super Bowl, so that I may properly wager.
The joke aside, and without trying to sound patronizing, but
good on ya! It's great to have your questions answered in a timely fashion.
Speaking of questions, what's the latest with the "dilute" gene? Is it a simple recessive, or codominant with anery and motley only? And what's going on with the latest breeding trials?
Oh, you don't know? Wellllll, some people who would be curious about that question
are missing some people who would be able to answer that question, and they feel that the "ol' gray mare just ain't what she used to be", because of their departure.
Does that make you feel less of a contributor to this forum?
It shouldn't. Does that make you feel less welcome to participate in this forum?
It shouldn't. Does that make you feel that you need to be "more serious" about the hobby, lest you be shunned here like a leper?
It shouldn't.
Besides, sloughing off body parts can get pretty messy. (
Don't ask me how I know this.)
It was the people who laughed with me, encouraged me, and voluntarily offered more than enough support that made this site great.
And ya know what? It was, and is, the people who are laughing with/at me, are encouraging me, and are offering support as I ask the annoying "first clutch" questions to those who have been there before as well. It's just a different level of experience. :shrugs:
Take a look around folks and quit mourning the loss of people who chose to leave.
I'm not telling you how to react to this sentence, you insufferable, pathetic newbie.
Who are you to tell
me what to do? (Did I mention that I'm a huge fan of irony?)
I can't speak for him, but I don't think that Dean misses communicating with people that are just a URL away. I think he misses the quality of the posts on this friggin message board on the internet.
It's a friggin message board on the internet, not you 'home'.
Whoa, that was
weird !!!
There are going to be times when you hate the people here and think the threads are all stupid.
As a fan of the bell curve, I believe that extremism on either side is not warranted, both in considering that all threads/people are stupid,
and in making such a generalization.
You'll get annoyed by newbies like me but you know what? Deal with it because this site was created just as much for people like me who have no experience as it was for people like you.
I don't think that Dean was making any assertion as to who the site is "for". He simply, and arbitrarily, categorized the the
types of users.
No matter how many transparent disclaimers you add to your post, it's obvious you see snake owners as less than breeders but at one time you were a lowly owner too who had no idea what you were doing.
And again, I see no "hierarchy" in Dean's assertion. To "not have the same passion" about breeding corns is NOT a stake of "superiority". They're just two different "types", with the one neither superior nor inferior to the other.
But that's MY perception. You've stated that "it's obvious". Therefore, presume I'm a dullard (many people here do). Show me where it's "obvious", and I'll concede the point.
Instead of complaining about the loss of the 'greats' why not do what people like Nanci and CornCrazy did and become one? The 'greats' earned their reputation by being people that everyone could go to for help. They don't complain about stupid things like 'boring threads' or 'silly' posters.
I'm trying to follow the logic here.
You've claimed that you got here after the """"""greats""""" (I use multiple quotes to emulate the fingery "air quote" thingies.) left.
You then state how the """""greats""""" "earned their reputation".
In essence, you're claiming to know the behaviors of people who left before you arrived.
And as one who has been here, and lived through the "schism", I can truly assert that the """""greats""""" complained about boring threads (while wittily participating in them), and "silly" posters (while wittily goading them on....we were the kitties, they were our balls of yarn).
They treat everyone with respect instead of sitting on a high horse looking down on people while pretending they aren't.
Agreed, but let's bear in mind that respect is earned. Yes, there's a base level of civility that should be accorded to all (except those
rare buffoons who are not serious about their inquiries, and are here to troll), but if you want respect, you get like E.F. Hutton gets their business....you
earrrrn it.
The bottom line is that this is a message board and if you want to make it better, adapt to the changes instead of expecting them to adapt to you.
I'll give latitude, but to say
"Yes, let's DROP ALL OUR STANDARDS of decent conduct and netiquette, and 'go with the flow', riding the waves like plankton" is something I
won't do. That's where you lose me.
As I see it, if you want to make it better:
- Make yourself better.
- Observe The Golden Rule.
- And remember, the policeman is your friend. :grin01:
regards,
jazz