Neither of our cats got cuddly until they were about 5 years old. Now, the black cat can be picked up and tossed around just about anytime and he'll start to purr, and he always sleeps with me. Our other cat only likes attention on his terms, and one of those terms is that the attention come from my wife and not me. That's fine with me, actually, because I don't like the way he likes his attention. He can't just lie down and be still. He is always pacing and walking and rubbing his chin and rolling on you. Levi (pictured), on the other hand, just curls up and goes to sleep while purring. I love that cat.