got banned from k mart.

[l0ck_0ff]

well today as i was at k mart and i was going to bring my girlfriend some dinner i asked one of the employees where she was. this employee does not like me because we would tease each other when we were friends and she got mad i said her name wrong so she doesn't like me anymore. well i went up to her and asked her where is my girlfriend? she said "shut the f*** up talking to me" yes i know, it makes no sense. well i called her a b**** under my breath and appearently she heard. well while out in my truck talking with my girl on her break as she is eating the security guard comes out saying im trespassing and i cant come back and if i do she will have the police there within 2 minutes. and i asked her what did i do and she said "im not gonna have you talking all types of s*** to my workers." well i asked her explain to me so i know the full story she said no so i said ok and i asked did she know how the employee treated me she said it doesn't matter. so i told her i would call corprate and said some pretty nasty things i wont repeat. she got on the phone with the police and i left.

well i call corprate fill out report and i call the store and ask to talk to the manager. i get the manager explain everything and she puts me back on the phone with the security lady. why? i have no clue well she basically disrespected me again on the phone. she disrespected me in my truck and wouldn't give me any reason as to why she wanted me arrested wouldn't explain the full story as to what the employee said. so as of now im banned. any ideas on what i could do to be able to go back to the store? any legal way or something i could do to not be in trouble? i dont think its fair im blamed for both employees being rude to me. im gonna email the manager and ask for documentation. because truthfuly i didnt deserve to have her come out disrespecting me because a worker switched the story around. oh and she is one of those security guards that dresses normal and walks around catching shop lifters. so she is really nothing is all reality she is on bottom of totem pole as far as security workers go. and she tried telling me she was a manager when in fact i called and asked for managers names and hers wasnt one of them.

any ideas would be helpful i feel i am being wrongly accused or punished for an employees disrespectful acts

 

[Sweetseraph]

It's private property. I'm thinking there's nothing you can do.

 

[airenlow]

 

[l0ck_0ff]

It's private property. I'm thinking there's nothing you can do.

yes but i was treated wrongly by an employee. i have heard other employee's being rude to other customers. i dont think its right for the employee to do as they please. especially banning me from the store. if its not documented they can't arrest me.. already looked it up. they have to have it dicumented why they dont want me in the store along with my full name. they dont know my name.

 

[l0ck_0ff]

ignorance is bliss aint it. now how's bout you reply properly or leave. didnt nanci tell you stay away from me and out of my threads.

 

[cat bojangles]

Jason, you might consider counting to ten and thinking before you speak or type. You got banned from K-mart for calling an employee a nasty name. There is absolutely no reason for you to be acting aggressively toward Josh for posting on a forum of which he is a member. This ain't your board and you don't get to push people around.

 

[airenlow]

And I apologize to Nanci for not staying out of it. I hope Susan got a good laugh out of my picture!

 

[l0ck_0ff]

Jason, you might consider counting to ten and thinking before you speak or type. You got banned from K-mart for calling an employee a nasty name. There is absolutely no reason for you to be acting aggressively toward Josh for posting on a forum of which he is a member. This ain't your board and you don't get to push people around.

a. the employee was disrespectful first. no harm done i was nice first.

b. so its ok for him to post agressively but when i do it im the bad person? i truthfully didnt get agressive. just think after all the trouble i went through with the mods because of him i asked them to state to him i dont want him posting in my threads if he is gonna create trouble. and they said if he does report it. which i can and he will get an infraction. he was agressive towards me in another thread. along time ago

 

[Michael823]

To me, there is no question of your immaturity. You constantly look for people to defend what how you've been slighted, but it's such a recurring theme of your character (from what you've shown here) to be bold, rude, and even how you've told stories of your more violent and out of control side. I'm not defending either side of this story, because I wasn't there, but it seems sensible to group the common behaviors that you've shown into one, and assume that once again you were out of line.

This may seem harsh, but I can't help but be honest here. You're 18, which unfortunately for you makes you an adult. Accountability is really something that you need to be a functioning adult, and it seems sometimes like you'd rather be a child who throws the victim card every time your actions come back to spite you. I feel obligated to say something, because I know FAR too many 18 year old's with anger problems that turned 19 year old's with anger problems, to 20, 21, and so on and so forth.

Sorry, but no sympathy here. Definitely no advice, or at least advice that you'd be looking for, because it's really on you to be responsible for your actions. All I can say is that the quicker you learn how to control your outbursts, and how to take accountability when you make mistakes, then the better off you'll be.

 

[l0ck_0ff]

To me, there is no question of your immaturity. You constantly look for people to defend what how you've been slighted, but it's such a recurring theme of your character (from what you've shown here) to be bold, rude, and even how you've told stories of your more violent and out of control side. I'm not defending either side of this story, because I wasn't there, but it seems sensible to group the common behaviors that you've shown into one, and assume that once again you were out of line.

This may seem harsh, but I can't help but be honest here. You're 18, which unfortunately for you makes you an adult. Accountability is really something that you need to be a functioning adult, and it seems sometimes like you'd rather be a child who throws the victim card every time your actions come back to spite you. I feel obligated to say something, because I know FAR too many 18 year old's with anger problems that turned 19 year old's with anger problems, to 20, 21, and so on and so forth.

Sorry, but no sympathy here. Definitely no advice, or at least advice that you'd be looking for, because it's really on you to be responsible for your actions. All I can say is that the quicker you learn how to control your outbursts, and how to take accountability when you make mistakes, then the better off you'll be.

already know the "im 18 an adult" bull. i dont feel out of line because i watch employees being rude to customers and watched one customers make an employee cry becus she was rude. nothing happened to him. i feel the employees are out of line not me. she was flat out rude no excuse to treat a customer that way.

 

[windowswisher]

I think calling a woman a "b****" is disrespectful, no matter what she said to you.

 

[Michael823]

already know the "im 18 an adult" bull. i dont feel out of line because i watch employees being rude to customers and watched one customers make an employee cry becus she was rude. nothing happened to him. i feel the employees are out of line not me. she was flat out rude no excuse to treat a customer that way.

This pretty much sums it up for me. I'm not saying that there is no truth to an employee being rude to you, or anyone else for that matter. It's the fact that your actions always repeat themselves, and it's usually in some retaliatory way in which you feel that it was deserved justice. Part of being a mature and responsible person is to not have the type of outbursts that you do, even if someone else "started it". That's where you prove your true character, if you can take a slight and just move on without retaliating. Using your wisdom instead of your impulses.

Everyone responds in some way or another when they feel like they've been wronged, and I'm not excusing myself from when I respond to things that I should have just been mature and moved on about. But the way you seem to handle things is by making a big gigantic ordeal about it, getting everyone you can involved, and then blaming them when it comes back at you. It's especially alarming when you get hostile and even violent, because that type of behavior really leads people down a dark and lonely road.

I'm not trying to tell you your business, and me taking the time to type this should count for me at least caring enough to say something, but you really need to start looking at yourself. When everyone else around you is wrong, it's time to start looking at someone else (yourself).

 

[luckycharm318]

Why is this in the Miscellaneous Corn Snakes Discussions section...? Should it not be in the General Chit-Chat Forum? Just sayin', please don't explode on me now. :sidestep:

 

[kalena]

LOL - when I saw the title of the thread and where it was, I figured maybe he took one of his snakes into K-Mart!

 

[DaGiant]

Kmart is a great company and value both customers and employees.

If someone is a "Threat" to the well being of the store they can and do
take action. While talking to you the security agent must have
felt a reason to take this action with you.

With your often inflamed attitude here, I'm sure they are warranted
with their actions.

 

[ShenziSixaxis]

You kind of asked for it by insulting the employee. You could have totally ignored her or remembered what she did and talked to the manager, or do what you did.

This is just a case of "mess with the bull, you get the horns." Just be happy the police weren't called this time. Instead of whining about this to us, you could be in jail right now.

 

[Cat_Eyed_Lady]

Sorry but to put it in perspective...... its K-mart...... Why would you want to go back there so badly after being treated like that??

 

[Lucille]

Here, from this thread:

i called her a b****

Here, from another random thread of yours:

so today was fight'n friday for me. got into a fight and taken to jail.

We all lose our temper from time to time. But it isn't something to be proud of. You seem to be dragging these incidents here and parading them around; is it a subliminal cry for help? If so, you've been offered some good advice.

Some people seem to equate the rite of approaching manhood with acting tough, fighting, rejecting authority. Kids are misled into believing that if they want to 'be somebody' they have to physically or verbally pound the stuffing out of others.

The path into manhood is a difficult one from what I have seen in others including my own sons. All that glitters is not gold, and while strutting and fighting may gain you some temporary notoriety, to me the description of true manhood does not incude petty temper tantrums.

A real man has the courage to stand up and say that perhaps he has temporarily taken the wrong path, that there are better ways to deal with situations. Maturation and growth are not easy, but nothing worthwhile is easy.

Maybe, use all that energy you are using to defend yourself, to slow down, look around, and think through what some here are trying to tell you.

 

[bitsy]

Why would you want to shop there anyway if customers are treated so badly? The best way to "punish" a shop is to withdraw your custom and hit their profits.

The sensible thing to do is just shop elsewhere and keep the lip zipped in future. Just because someone is rude to you, doesn't mean you have to be rude back - it's pretty difficult to argue with someone who just smiles sweetly and refuses to take offence.

Walk away.

 

[l0ck_0ff]

Why is this in the Miscellaneous Corn Snakes Discussions section...? Should it not be in the General Chit-Chat Forum? Just sayin', please don't explode on me now. :sidestep:

acidentally posted it here sorry

and for the rest of everybody i really dont have an explosive temper like you all think. yea i fought a kid in my mind it was what i felt i had to do after i repeatedly seeked help from my local law enfforcement and the school staff. they wouldnt help me so i went after him.

this case i said it under my breath no intent for her to hear me. but also my intent was not to physically hurt her like the sercurity guard thought i was gonna kill her. i told her that wasn't the case... i think what happened was a llittle story switching to make the employee look better. which i know they do because my girl cries to the security guard and switches the story big time and so does all the workers. its how they get what they want. ill be back in today with an officer i have all my rights printed out and ill ask for documentation on everything.