If you are nervous about being bit...just wear a pair of latex/vinylgloves (like doctors wear)...
It might sound silly but I had to do that for a full year with our first corn snake (my kids were fine but I was nervous
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The best thing to do is be very matter of fact and gentle.
Remember most of the time you are taking the snake out it was probably sleeping and so it is even more confused/scared.
I tend to take the top off the cage,
find the snake in one of the hides,
take the hide off the snake,
wait a few minutes to let the snake figure out what's going on...
then reach in and take him out by the mid belly (not head or tail).
Our '07 boy usually takes about 5-10 minutes to settle down and the girl takes about 5 minutes to settle in...our very first corn settled in with a couple minutes, so each snake is different.
*Remember too that when the snake is going through the shed process he cannot see well/at all so most people leave the snake alone for that week or so until it has shed...that way the snake is less stressed and you are less likely to get bit.
As far as getting used to one person, my opinion (take it or leave it) is they somehow get to know their 'person' and settle in fastest for that person...whether it is because they get to know the scent, or just because that might be the calmest person in the house... that has been our experience:wavey:
Also, although it may seem otherwise at times, snakes do not plot how to get you, they are not mean, they are just reacting out of instinct.
Once he figures out you are not going to eat him he should settle in, and you will too:cheers: