Humiliating??
Actually, humiliation would be my male cat 'Daisy.' When we got 'him' a year and a half ago, my girlfriend was convinced those things under his tail were just 'tufts of fur.'
She did not believe they weren't 'tufts of fur' until we got him NEUTERED. Fortunately, 'Daisy' also responds to 'Davey.' Hee hee.
joe clark