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:( no corn snake for me.

tcr03

tcr03

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well after trying and trying to convince my wife to let me get a cornsnake, i am giving up. she has agreed to let me get a lizard, so im going to get a crested gecko. im hoping that she will become very fond of the gecko and open up alittle more to the whole snake idea. so i will still hang out on the bord and still learn what i can. i have noticed that some of you have crested geckos. im really interested in learning more about them from you. so if you could please post about the crested gecko with pics. thanks.
 
Don't be too discouraged.

I know several hard core herper couples in which the wife started reluctantly with leopard geckos (nobody had cresteds back then!) Once she grew to love their personalities and really got into them, there was no turning back! So just go with the flow and you might be surprised at the outcome in a year or two.

Good luck!
 
Get one anyhow. What she doesn't know won't hurt you...
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until she finds out! :crazy02:
 
perhaps you could bring her to the St. Louis show and let her see how tiny and harmless they start out. there might be some adults there too, so she might get to see that although they aren't exactly tiny they do stay very harmless. :)



hana
 
over 20 years ago my sister and i got our first snake and my father hated them...

he couldnt even stand to be near them...(yet he bought them for us)

a few hundred later and well, you get the idea. it didnt take long for him to catch on. LOL
 
My mother will not go anywhere near my snake, although she can be in the same room as her if she can see where she is. I was going to be going away from home for a few years, and thought it may be best to sell my girl to someone with time for her, as a pet snake is not acceptable in army barracks. I asked my mother if she thought I should let her go, and her answer was, 'theres no way I'll let you sell slither, I enjoy watching her develope and grow from hatchling to yearling (which she is now), and in the future to an adult.' Point blank refusal to let me sell the snake that she wouldn't even hold. It seems she's got quite attached to her. One day in the future I will get mother to handle her, just like one day you'll get the missus to let you have your snake. Perhaps you could try some kind of bribary?? lol
 
Oddly enough, my Wife talked me into our first corn sanke a few years back. Her winning point was she felt the mother in law would not come over ( My Wifes Mother of course :) ) if she knew there was a snake in the house.. Well, a few years later, we now have 10 Corns and a pair of BP's, and no mother outlaw! :flames:

Regards!
 
hey wanna know a secret my granddad who i live with and Nan hate snakes and reptiles and spiders. i persuaded my Nan to let me have my tarantula Sid. once i got the tarantula i took an interest into lizards and went out and got one behind my Nan and grandads back. it was ok for a while till my Nan and granddad found out about the lizard. once they found out they had a little go at me. a few days later i saw my Nan in my room looking at the lizard a few days later my granddad was as well they were warming up and beginning to like the lizard. now my Nan and granddad even hold the lizard and there were really scared and didn't like the idea and i mean scared and not liking it. this was taking the piss abit but i then got a snake behind there back and told them it was another lizard the truth was out after about 3 Horus though my mum had told them. my granddad hates snakes more than he hated lizard he didn't like it one bit he told me to get rid of it. i ignored him and then after a while i said sorry to him. a few days later after having the snake i saw my granddad looking at the snake and my Nan they actually said it was not that bad :). hehee not saying you should do what i did and just go out and get one but it worked for me.

have you got any friends with snakes? if so ask them can you borrow there snake so you can get your partner to get used to snakes she might then see you really want one and let you have one. she might even get to realise snakes are grate and want one herself.

meh Iver that or get a few books and blag you are really interested so she feels guilty and lets you have one.

sorry about spelling but hope that works.

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oh yeah if yeah do get one behind her back dont blame me :) hehehehe
 
My boyfriend was really not keen on the idea of having a pet snake (now we have about 50 in the house when you count the hatchlings!) but it was mainly through fear of the unknown.

I took him to an exotics zoo not too far from here where I'm aquainted with the owner and asked him if I could let Thomas hold a cornsnake. So Frank gave me a small adult male (about 250g/3 foot) and I let it run around my hands a little while he watched. Thomas then patted it and after a few minutes he was holding him and really getting comfortable. His comfort level went from 2/10 to about 6/10 right there and then in the space of a few minutes.

I said to him that I would really love to have one but if he still felt uncomfortable with that, then I understand and respect that. He was so pleased that I saw it that way that he said that because I was very respectful about the way he felt and didn't try to force him into it, then he said it would be fine.

3 weeks later I found a 2nd hand viv at a flea market, 2 weeks after that we bought my first 2 snakes....and the rest is history!


Sometimes your partner can be convinced by taking a gentle approach rather than putting your foot down when you want something....ahhh psychology!!!!
 
I have a story similar to princess. A few years ago I took fancy to snakes. My dad and I both have fairly serious allergies and neither of us could have any 'furry' pets, inside OR outside the house.

I started doing a little research and found myself attracted to snakes the most, and came across this forum. By learning everything I possibly could about the species, (which is great, because there's almost absolutely nothing bad or negative about corn snakes) I was able to convince my father that we need a new pet.

In desperation (I'm sure he was terrified of snakes though he would not admit it) he became convinced that we needed an iguana. (Spelling? Sorry, I'm really tired.) With the help of my friends on this forum, and only looking at the negative aspects of iguanas, I talked him out of it.

A few years later, here I am, the proud owner of a non-red-eyed, already-"trained", normal-colored-(that won't blend into the carpet if he escapes), gentle-as-can-be corn living in an impossible-to-escape-from-cage.

The thing that frightens people the most is the unknown. Keep researching, bringing out the good things and mentioning them to your wife. Show her just how much you want one. Promise to buy a snake lacking the things she most fears. (With my dad--size and red eyes.)

Don't give up. I know just how you feel.

I do think that buying a lizard of some sort may help. Show her just how gentle and loveable reptiles can be, keep persuading and researching, and you're well on your way to your very own corn.

Did I talk too much again? :eek1:
 
I was very lucky when I met my husband. I had put in the first line of my personals ad, "If you don't like tattoos and snakes, look away now!". He thought that was the coolest thing. He found a woman who came with accessories!

And just slightly :-offtopic

When I was in the 7th grade, my teacher had baby rats for sale for $2 and a permission slip from the parents. I knew the $2 would be easy, but I had to beg my mom to let me get one. She gave in, saying as long as she didn't have to look at it, touch it or know it was in the house. Alright! So that day after school I go in, get my baby rat (blonde with red eyes) then have to go to a music lesson across town. The rat's in a little Habitrail thing on the passenger seat when I go in for my lesson. 30 mins later when I come out, my mom has the rat out and the rat is crawling up her arm! She fell in love with that rat so fast!

However, she did draw the line at snakes and I only went against the grain after I already had two and moved back home as an adult.


Good luck convincing your wife. It'll all work out ok.
 
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best plan is...charm her with those damned cute cresties..... thats how i got my girlfriend to eventually allow snakes in the house lol, then what you do is just keep buying more and put them in a rack eventually she wont even care if your getting more!!!hahahha
 
yeh we went today to look at some crested geckos. i even got to hold one. she was very cool with it. so its a go and we are getting one at the st. louis reptile show.
 
Yeah, I had the same experience with my mom while growing up...I ALWAYS begged her to let me get a snake or some kind of reptile. Everytime, I got a "NO flippin' WAY" response. Needless to say, I owned a lot of hamsters and fish growing up...

When I finally got out on my own, I was ecstatic to finally get one. So, my mom comes over to visit me with my little sister(who still lives at home) and she falls in LOVE with my snakes...go figure.

 
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