OFFENSIVE POSTS!! Think of everyone please!

[heatherfeather30]

I might be a newbie here but I know when I read something that is in very POOR TASTE! And I am being KIND when I use that phrase.

Just read a post about a "haunted house" post from 6/27 and it started off interesting. But as you go into the 8 pages of posts you will find it going way over R-Rated. Come on people! Do you really need to post quotes, little sayings, etc. that are so offensive? Even my ex-husband was offended when he came over and read it. And because of this the following HAS TO HAPPEN:

Our 14 year old son WILL NOT BE able to FREELY READ ANY/ALL information posted here. So THANKS A LOT! He thinks his parents are being lame, but it is our job to try and protect him from filth until he is old enough to not be IMPRESSED by it.

You KNOW WHAT? I'd rather live with the paranormal / ghosts / afterlife / whatever... than read, listen, and live in a world with the trashy crap people that write/talk like this offers up (NOTHING USEFUL) to others... especially impressionable kids!

I am sure there will be plenty of posts telling me to go F-myself... I now will expect that. Prior to reading this post I thought I found an informational website with intelligence to be learned and shared. I believe THAT was the intention of the person(s) who created this site.

Heather

 

[tom e]

Woah..
Got a link maybe?
I think people are generally pretty respectful here compared to the rest of the internet... :shrugs:

 

[Roy Munson]

I might be a newbie here but I know when I read something that is in very POOR TASTE! And I am being KIND when I use that phrase.

Just read a post about a "haunted house" post from 6/27 and it started off interesting. But as you go into the 8 pages of posts you will find it going way over R-Rated. Come on people! Do you really need to post quotes, little sayings, etc. that are so offensive? Even my ex-husband was offended when he came over and read it. And because of this the following HAS TO HAPPEN:

Our 14 year old son WILL NOT BE able to FREELY READ ANY/ALL information posted here. So THANKS A LOT! He thinks his parents are being lame, but it is our job to try and protect him from filth until he is old enough to not be IMPRESSED by it.

You KNOW WHAT? I'd rather live with the paranormal / ghosts / afterlife / whatever... than read, listen, and live in a world with the trashy crap people that write/talk like this offers up (NOTHING USEFUL) to others... especially impressionable kids!

I am sure there will be plenty of posts telling me to go F-myself... I now will expect that. Prior to reading this post I thought I found an informational website with intelligence to be learned and shared. I believe THAT was the intention of the person(s) who created this site.

Heather

Hi Heather.

I haven't read that thread, because I don't care about paranormal stuff. The mod team isn't required to read every thread (thankfully). If you ever see anything you think is against the rules of this site, use the "report post" button on the bottom of the user profile portion of the post (way below the avatar). That will prompt the admin and/or mods to review the post you report.

I'm going to go look at that thread, and then I'll return to this one.

-Dean

 

[Tula_Montage]

I think you will find this forum is VERY family friendly when compared to every other forum out there. Anything considered inappropriate by our moderators is taken care of, and I think you should write a private message to either one of them about your grievances.

In saying that, there are a few individuals who sometimes post a little inappropriately, but haven't we all. The fact is, if you don't like this well educated, well mannered community then don't be a part of it. Sorry to sound harsh.

I saw nothing wrong with the haunted house thread, yes the pictures were a little creepy, if you put yourself in that frame of mind. I thought it was educational in its self, and I thoroughly enjoyed reading through it.

"go F-myself" < I'm sure we all know what that means (including your son) and IMO thats inappropriate. A wee bit hypocritical if you ask me.

 

[tom e]

I found it via the search function, but I don't get it still.
It seems pretty tame, unless you are offended by people talking about ghosts?
Or was it something in the links that took you off this site? I didn't follow any links...

:shrugs:

 

[ArpeggioAngel]

I don't think it is our thread on CS that is offensive. The OP of that thread included a link to another thread on another board and THAT thread is pretty rough in places.

 

[Tula_Montage]

And the point is, you don't HAVE to follow any links if you know what the content will be. The links source was clearly discribed in the first post. Simply don't look if you're not into that kind of thing.

The content on the other forum is 100% non accountable to cornsnakes.com

 

[Dreqqus]

After rereading all the posts(I too did not go to the links) I found nothing of offense? Unless you just find the idea of ghosts/paranormal things offensive? Would you please cite exactly what you found offensive?

 

[heatherfeather30]

OH MY GOSH! IT WAS A LINK THAT WE ACCIDENTALLY GOT ON TO. I don't even think we realized it happened.

I APPOLOGIZE TO ALL! (except the ones on the link)

I DO WANT TO BE PART OF THIS EDUCATIONAL WEBSITE... I just didn't realize I was on another link. The three of us were reading/searching for pics of "ghost corns" and this post popped-up. Well my son loves paranormal anything so somewhere between going in/out of kitchen stirring some stew, they must have gotten onto a link.

NOW I LEARNED ANOTHER THING!

But other than TELLING / DEMANDING my son stay clear of LINKS... is there anyway to prevent it? He was laughing and when I came in and read what he was laughing at I really wasn't happy.

Again... SO SORRY FOR OUR MISUNDERSTANDING!

 

[Tula_Montage]

Dreqqus, if you follow the link you will find some pictures a few pages through the thread that are a little unorthadox. And the language isn't so peachy either. But that is of no responsibility to cornsnakes.com!

 

[Tula_Montage]

Heather, I don't believe we have many outside links posted at all on cs.com, if we do they are usually animal/reptile/politics related and completely educational. Thus why many forums ban outside links! I hope cs.com does not imply that rule.

 

[heatherfeather30]

Now I know that it isn't Cornsnakes.com responsibility I feel awful.

I just was so upset when I found my 14 year old laughing at some really raunchy stuff. My stomach is still in knots. He is at that age where that stuff is "cool". As his mother I need to keep him away from as much as I can until he understands that talk like that is "uncool and offensive" especially to females. I would just die if I raised a son that talked, quoted, even thought like that!

My sincere apologies again,

Heather

 

[TandJ]

You can purchase software that will block sites because of content.. I believe you can set that sort of environment up in Windows too.. Humm.. 14 year will figure out how to defeat it anyways.. :shrugs:

But other than TELLING / DEMANDING my son stay clear of LINKS...

You might want to trust him too.. Although at 14 I was no wheres near an angel and well had some intresting expieriances too.. :grin01: :grin01: :crazy02: :crazy02:

Regards.. Tim of T and J

 

[heatherfeather30]

To Tim:

My 14 year old has HAD some EXPERIENCES and that is what "woke me up"!!! I think it was the cute blond in his room, and then the burn center that woke me up big time!

He was all angel until puberty. Testosterone ruined him... LOL ...

I know I cannot protect him, but can you imagine showing your ex-husband this GREAT WEBSITE for your son... and this was his first time viewing! It was unbelievable chaos here for awhile. I was caught off-guard and didn't understand that they weren't even on cornsnakes.com.

Heather

 

[TandJ]

My 14 year old has HAD some EXPERIENCES and that is what "woke me up"!!! I think it was the cute blond in his room, and then the burn center that woke me up big time!

Hmmm.. *lol* I am not laughing at you, so please don't take me as being offensive..

It was unbelievable chaos here for awhile.

It never ends for me.. Honestly.. If its not one thing, yeah know the the routine..

I know I cannot protect him, but can you imagine showing your ex-husband this GREAT WEBSITE for your son... and this was his first time viewing! It was unbelievable chaos here for awhile. I was caught off-guard and didn't understand that they weren't even on cornsnakes.com.

Yeah, I have one of those teenagers too.. I understand completely.. I just don't freak out, and understand it is my responsibility to edit for content.. No, I am not laying the smack down on you, as I understand the situations teenie boopers can get us into..

Regards.. Tim of T and J

 

[heatherfeather30]

Oh Tim,

Tell me it WILL END! My 14 year old son and 16 year old daughter are just about frying my nerves. I have tried to raise them to be good human beings... unlike my teenage years. I guess hormones are there for a reason. I just wish they came later in life when we can handle them better.

I swear there are days when my snakes are the only ones that will love and kiss me!

Heather

 

[TandJ]

I can't tell you when it will end.. Yours will be gone before mine.. 12 and 6 and 7/8th's.. *LOL*

My 14 year old son and 16 year old daughter are just about frying my nerves. I have tried to raise them to be good human beings... unlike my teenage years. I guess hormones are there for a reason. I just wish they came later in life when we can handle them better.

This is why my Wife goes by Mrs.InsaneOne here.. *snickers* At least I can go to work.. * ducks because he knows Jenn is about to swing the frying pan.. * I understnad the frayed nerves, and I know it is only to get worse before it gets better.. *lol* Oh I hope so anyways..

Regards.. Tim of T and J

 

[heatherfeather30]

To Tim:

AND YOU CAN LOL at this one!

Our priest told me he wouldn't baptize my son because I loved the name Kane. He said it was too close to Cane from the bible.

So being the snot I was at that age... I go ahead and go around the priest's rules and name my son Kaenan! He warned me but had to baptize him.

Karma comes and gets us all in the end!

Heather

 

[desertanimal]

Having been a TA for a very good professor of college-level human sexuality, I can tell you that many parents don't educate their children very well on this topic. As a result, they learn what's fun, funny, ok, and not from peers a lot of the time. And, a lot of the time they end up thinking they know a lot when really they know nothing.

Rather than try to keep your son sheltered, I would suggest proactive education instead. Especially about how it is appropriate (or not) to talk about/treat women.

I know, I know, I'm not a parent and kids don't want to hear from their parents on this stuff, and parents try their best. But really, the level of misinformation that kids come to college with (where there are no parents at night in the dorm rooms), and then retain past college, is appalling (and sometimes downright dangerous).

 

[Emanon]

I also feel that our universities are feeding their fair share of misinformation as well. Protection to a parent is very important (I have 1.2) but there is also the reality that they will be out of our guidance and control very shortly. Parents do not need to saturate a young child with the "internet education" of sexuality. Beliefs, norms, and mores play a big part in the raising of a person, and everyone will react differently to that upbringing. Can work for one and not for the other, parenthood is not for those who lack intestinal fortitude.
Make sure that they know you care, always.
Find every excuse to praise them for good things.
Love them unconditionally.
Correct them when necessary.
Know them, know them very well.
Watch over them like a hawk.
Know that in the end, they too will leave the nest and must be able to fly on their own.


You will go crazy.
They do cause grey hair.
They do cause hair loss.
They do keep us up at night.
They do show us new ways of thinking.
They are an extension of us.
They will cause our greatest heartache.
They will cause our greatest sense of pride.
We never know when these will happen.


Enjoy the good times.
Pray through the bad.
In time they will understand why you were the way you were.
And they will know why you are the way you are.