Before I go any further, I'm going to preface this with the fact that I tend to be blunt. I usually prefer to write things out in a short manner, though I do have my moments of waxing eloquent. So the following is meant, entirely, to be helpful.. but it's going to be written out simply because I've tried writing it more tactfully and it just comes off sounding snide.
So.
Your phrasing here, if that is the way you have written in the past, is probably why you've encountered, or think you have encountered, people being condescending.
"I don't care what (you) say", "it warrants my attention", etc. The entire paragraph is actually highly aggressive in word usage. Not vibes. Not tone. Outright word usage and phrasing. Faced with writing like this, there is an increased chance for aggressiveness to be returned, and thus you end up with a spiral of increasing snippiness.
Often, a lot of what (generic)you read tone-wise in a post is something (generic)you were the one to put there. You get out what you put in. If you think you read something condescending, you're going to have that in your brain and MORE things are going to look condescending to you. It's a confirmation bias.
Actually, Shiari, I've been fairly "laid-back" in my "phrasing" & "word usage". I'm a mellow fellow unless provoked. I fail to see reason in your rhyme. I honestly don't see how my phrasing was more than strong, to the point of being aggressive.
My conflicts with other forum members have been in the cases of someone implying, in/not in so many words, that their snakes were somehow better because they are "designer" morphs, or from such & such breeder, and not a crappy little snake like little Timmy's petstore one. Or, when others have talked in a disparaging manner as to imply, intuitively, intentionally, or unknowingly that someone is not as intelligent as they are based on
THEIR "phrasing" & "word usage". ETC. ETC.
Though intelligence is off topic, please people, don't assume because someone is not typing with the utmost of capitalization, punctuation, or even spelling that the person is of less mental capacity than you. They are most likely just less informed or less educated, or in my case
LAZY. Which does in no way make them any lesser than you are. This is why this forum is here, atleast in my assumption, to educate
FELLOW Corn Snake lovers about the world of their beloved snakes. I don't know about you Shiari, but I myself like to help others, to share any wealth and blessing of information I have with others less informed.
And Shiari, I've spoken to others about this post you've ever so "eloquently" posted and made me fortunate enough to read. Most everyone agreed it was indeed "snide". I know you personally have tried to school senior members on here whom may or may not need it. MYguess is, and this is just an inference, an inkling, but my guess is that someone who's been raising, breeding, and generally keeping snakes for 2-3 decades doesn't need your opinion on the way they "do business", UNLESS they ask you. And, that's just my opinion...so take it with a grain of salt, as I have your words. Ps- Forgive my typos, because frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn.
