I want to start out by saying sorry if I insult anyone in
saying what I am about to say. It isn't meant as a personal attack on anyone its just a
feeling I have about this site In general.
I also want to start out by saying that I have been on a lot of forums, and we all know
what forums are like in general.
People take every opportunity they can to insult
someone. This site is AMAZING! I dont get that feeling at all here and I think that has a
lot to do with the average age being a lot older then most forums I've been on, therefor
this site is more mature.
That being said I know people(Including me) Love snakes and want to see them being
taken care of perfectly! Because of that I have see SOO many people being attacked
because of something they are doing incorrectly.
I want the best for everyones snake and I want to help people who come here with
questions but I am seriously so sick of reading a thread and it turning into a huge
argument! I am new here (so this all may be out of line for me to say) but ithas made
me VERY nervous to post a question I have because I dont want to get attacked. I am
not saying this to be insulting I just want to say as a newbie here how negativly some
of these actions have effected me and im sure other people
What I wanted to address was GOOD ways to go about a situation where someone is
doing something distasteful or inhumane or whatever.
I am typing this all out because I like everyone else here want the best for all the
snakes out there and I think that sometimes the community here fails to get across to
people that they are really doing something wrong.
I hope people will listen to this because people on here dont flame people to feel like a
bigger person like other forums but to help the snake! (Cheesy I know
) So I was
hopeing people could toss around some helpful tips about how to help someone if you
disprove of what they are doing. At the least, I wanted to state how these things have effected me as a newcommer here and to alert people to this because I am sure im not the only one too scared to post a question.
I think the major issue is people get mad and insult the person with the question which
automatically gets the OP on the defensive and less likely to listen to whatever
suggestions are made.
I dont know if this will do anything at all I just wanted to possably help with this issue
and I thought a thread about ways of helping people might help?
Anythings worth a shot if it has the possability of helping out even 1 person right?
It had been inferred to me thru a few persons here longer than me,
that there was some strife and differences of opinion ocassionally, dustups, flareups,
etc, for sometime before I made my appearance on this forum.
When I first arrived, there were (then) current examples of all of those issues. Like
moving into a new neighborhood, in a rough part of town, I tried emulating behaviors
displayed by some of the more virulent hoodies. It did not end well. If one wants to fit
in, sometimes some behavioral modifications are necessary to do so.
Sometimes.
Then I won a oneway vacation. It was a good thing. There are many posts I do not need
to respond to; many that someone who frequently posts can answer. I don't need to
jump in on every new thread. Let someone with more free time on their hands handle it.
Just because others behave poorly is not a reason to do so. Fitting in, in the short "good
for the moment" term, may not be such a hot idea in the long run.
There seems to be 2 main groups of persons here: persons who have a few pets, and,
persons who are professional cornsnake breeders/producers. There are other types too,
of course, in the mix. Most of the breeders simply dont have the time to dedicate to
keeping up with the www. The pet cornysnakers crowd have more time generally, both
groups need each other, and that just seems to be how it is. I do not see/have not read
of -the pro-breeders getting caught up in heated discussions off topic.
I often ask myself:
"Is this post I am about to make:
Suitable reading material for a 6 year old who is doing a school report on cornsnakes?"
I think the thing new people need very most to understand is that in this big bad old
world there are nice people and rude people. We have both here. Listen to the nice
people and ignore the rude people. Easier said than done but a very good way to
stumble through life. There is good information to be had here and you will get the help
you need here if you don’t allow the rude people to drive you away.
If you take all the good things about a person and all the bad things about a person and
put them together what you come up with is an average person.
We all have our moments. Unless we're Gods.
In ancient theater if an actor played more than one role in the production in a
performance, then he was considered to display "multiple personalities". Each
different "persona" acted out on the stage was sheilded by a different mask. In an age
when it was not difficult to tick off the ruler and get put to death, being proclaimed
as "having multiple personalities" was high praise. it was safer to be a soldier than an
actor. Interesting people, in my observed experience, are always more than "one faced"
. It's the ones whom tick me off the most (by challenging my thinking) that I usually
gain the most insight from in the long term.
Around 3/4ths of the average daily posts are made by the "regulars" on the site. There
are many professional CS types who dont post on any site. (waves gif).
Other questions that come to mind include:
1. What might insecurities coupled with enthusiasm may be mistaken for? Arrogance? Self righteousness? An excuse to jump on the newbie?
2. Who's best qualified to answ a Q or knows all of the answers to everything? Is the answer provided based on assumption, direct experience, many years of direct experience, or something else?
(I do not know everything).
3. What about variances in geographical location of persons asking a question? If they are in Corsica, and I am in Nebraska, am I really qualified to answer their question?
4. Will what works for one person one time may not work another?
5. Do I need to respond to this? (aka big fish become big by not biting on phishing bait)
6. Will a post that makes me feel good for the moment may make me look like -- forever? (Writing is "words that stay").
7. Do you know when not to respond? (know thyself; know thy limits)
Thanks katattata, for the "DYK how 2 play?" thread.
warm regards,
dp
