Yes, I was on board SSN 689,theUSS Baton Rouge. It was a nuclear-powered fast-attack boat. After that tour I worked on a submarine tender in the repair department, still working on the boats.
I hope the submarine service isn't totally what your perception of it is, if it is I fear for the crews. The people I know and the things I read on our boards say otherwise, but I'm not there any more. We haven't lost a boat for a long time and there's a reason for that. It's not just because of the boats, it's the crews and the people around them like you that help maintain either the boat or the crew. (sorry, I don't know what you do. Whatever it is, thanks!)
Anyone in the Navy has heard of unfairness in the Chief selection boards (which are the only kind of "selection" for rank in the enlisted world), it's not right, sometimes it changes careers. I don't know how it can happen. When the CPO selection board convenes in DC It's supposed to be non-biased. I think the last part doesn't even use names, but I'm sure that there's a way around that. That's not specific to submarines, that's navywide, and it also has nothing to do with officers. CPO is an enlisted rank. Petty officers have the word "officer" in their title, but if you call a Chief "sir" or salute them in passing you might get an earfull of salty language!
I'll have to ask around about the enlisted/officer attitude.
One of the cool things about being in a small, tight-knit command like a submarine was that there wasn't such a large division between the officers and the rest of the crew and comraderie was real high. It would be a little sad if that's changed. I don't think it would hurt operations, but it would be a loss for the service and the crews.
The teasing and stuff is true, but shouldn't be mean, or it wasn't when I was there. It's so that you become part of the crew, really. It's like open season on you until you get your dolphins! Everyone gets it, no exceptions. If someone takes it badly and can't get along with people it's kind of a signal, so it's good to find out. These are your shipmates, helping to keep themselves and you alive, you want to know them. They didn't make it easy to get qualified, but they would always help if they could. That same first class, qualified on the boat Torpedoman's Mate that kicked your "non-qual butt" off of the mess decks during the movie will also sit down in the torpedo room with you and help you understand how everything works to get a sig on your ship's quals. And, truthfully, sometimes on long submerged transits there's not a lot to do, no changes. Messing with your shipmates is a fun distraction
I've even seen people do it to the Captain; very,
very carefully and respectfully.
No, it isn't true that everyone goes to prototype and nuke school. The only submariners who go to nuke school and the submarine nuclear reactor prototype plants are the "nukes" themselves (engineering, reactor/propulsion plant specific rates) and all of the line officers. The "forward end" bubbleheads don't go to nuke school. The supply corps officers aren't eligible for command so they don't go through the division officer rotation, but I think they still go to the O's Sub School, not sure on that.
Almost everyone DOES go to submarine school, nukes included, I have heard of very few exceptions. In Basic Enlisted Submarine School we learned everything about submarine construction, operation, and living on board. No one who goes through Sub School can be surprised by what they are being asked to do. It may be hard to get used to, but it's not unexpected.
Sorry Ryan, you get me talking about submarines and I get wordy. I just used up my lunchtime!
Tara! This is great that there's another person here from the submarine community. I want to know what you do? What was/is your husband's rate? Did he make chief? You may know this from working around the crews, but a chief on board a submarine is kind of a special thing, most of them get more respect than some of the officers. They've been there, done that, for a while. Even as an E-6 your husband was a highly-trained man, probably qualified to do many, many things you never even heard about.
And I guess you know that most submariners are a little twisted...