Its not so much that I HAVE to ask other people, ultimately its up to me. But I do like to at least see what another party thinks of something beforehand.
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Tongue Piercings: Should I get one?
- Thread starter R.W.
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Its not so much that I HAVE to ask other people, ultimately its up to me. But I do like to at least see what another party thinks of something beforehand.
kathylove
Pragmatic & Logical
I think it is a great idea to seek opinions from various perspectives...
both from those with special knowledge or experience, or those who just have opinions, but know nothing about the subject except what they do and do not find appealing (like me, lol!) Somebody else might bring up a question or two that never occurred to you, and it will make you do more research before spending the time, money, or possibly doing something with bad side effects. Never hurts to get more info before jumping into something.
As long as you acknowledge that the only opinions that REALLY count, are your own (and you have already said as much), plus those whom you care about, or who have some authority over you (such as a boss), then why not ask for uninvolved parties to throw in their 2 cents? You might discover something you didn't know previously, and that would help you make up your mind.
both from those with special knowledge or experience, or those who just have opinions, but know nothing about the subject except what they do and do not find appealing (like me, lol!) Somebody else might bring up a question or two that never occurred to you, and it will make you do more research before spending the time, money, or possibly doing something with bad side effects. Never hurts to get more info before jumping into something.
As long as you acknowledge that the only opinions that REALLY count, are your own (and you have already said as much), plus those whom you care about, or who have some authority over you (such as a boss), then why not ask for uninvolved parties to throw in their 2 cents? You might discover something you didn't know previously, and that would help you make up your mind.
Michael823
New member
There's no such thing as somewhat homophobic, intolerance is intolerance, you can't try to be democratic about it by saying "somewhat". There are a few people on this site who happen to be gay, and I'm not sure these remarks are very respectful to them. Maybe saying that tongue rings look more feminine to you would be a more respectful way of getting your points across.
I also don't even think that tongue rings symbolize homosexuality in any way, I personally find it really unattractive on girls. That's because I'm just not big into tattoos or piercings, but I don't think it reflects ones preference.
dionythicus
Kiss My Hearse
Um....way too much information and not really something our younger audience needs to know about, IMO. Maybe you could edit your post.
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BobbyHill
New member
You're right, the human body is far too obscene to learn about as an adolescent. :sidestep:
dionythicus
Kiss My Hearse
I'm not prudish, lol, I just don't think that term should be used in a family friendly forum. There are rules on the forum regarding content and language. And frankly, I didn't need the mental picture that went with that tidbit of information! No offense, marinneli, but eeewww!
danielle
New member
I thought she discussed her piercings respectfully actually. I could think of at least ten other names the piercing in question is called and she used the appropriate terminology in an appropriate thread talking about body piercings. We talk about prolapses, hemipenes, snake porn, and fertility all the time here becaue it is appropriate for the content in question and this is know different. Plus by the time a kid is 13 they have learned much more, use filthier language, and have engaged in acts that have been outlawed in certain states as well as those that are just outright illegal. I wouldn't pierce my vajayjay ouch, but knowing the tongue piercing was less painful was educational, lol!
Michael823
New member
I didn't read the original post, all I saw was the asterisks, but I can only assume. I mean I pierced my z*****, gauged my x*******n******, and had a tattoo of Ronald Mc'donald put on my w****** that goes all the way down my v*******q*****p**, but I didn't find it appropriate to go into great detail about it (for the children's sake of course).
danielle
New member
There really was no great detail at all since you missed it. This is a thread on piercings and she simply explained her experience being that she has a few which is just support for her advice on getting one. You don't let a dentist tell you to get a lump removed same as you don't get a piercing on the adivce of someone who has none.
dionythicus
Kiss My Hearse
The issue was solely the word chosen. Any number of less graphic words could have used, as well. In fact, it didn't need to be mentioned at all, since the OP is asking about tongues, not other body parts. We have a difference of opinion on what's appropriate, that's all.
vetusvates
Gamaliel's Principle
My two cents : Do what you want. I don't need to know the details. LOL.
NOTE : Paraphilia : Stigmatophilia
http://www.bigeye.com/sexeducation/stigmatophilia.html
NOTE : The many more interesting paraphilias. Just part of my job to know these things. LOL.
NOTE : Paraphilia : Stigmatophilia
http://www.bigeye.com/sexeducation/stigmatophilia.html
NOTE : The many more interesting paraphilias. Just part of my job to know these things. LOL.
dionythicus
Kiss My Hearse
My point exactly. LOL
BobbyHill
New member
Wow. What kind of a job do YOU have?
vetusvates
Gamaliel's Principle
:roflmao: :roflmao: :roflmao:
Substance Abuse Counselor.
Which often includes other bad habits, compulsions, and co-occurring disorders and diagnoses in the DSM-IV-TR Manual.
Totally for reals.
I have a special desk drawer for contraband...vodka bottles, crack pipes, etc.
What is commonplace to me in a week's work would shock and disgust most people.
That is why I come here to CS.com,...for peace, sanity, intellectual and philosophical conversation, etc.
Like most of the active threads tonight.
:laugh:
Michael823
New member
Nuff said. Crack Pipe hide and go seek, no thanks, if it's not in a pocket, keep it, I'm not going in for it. But that's your job, gruesome or not, and I hope you are able to rehabilitate more people than not.
dave partington
Crazy Dave
So if it is a labeled quantified term, does that make it good, or bad?
If the Stigmatophilia is removed to empower my therapist enabled to fill out the paperwork to their advantage, wouldn't that be Co-dependancy?
The more I read this thread, the more I want to pierce my cerebellum.
vetusvates
Gamaliel's Principle
Excellent point, Dave. And I think you are the only one who got it.
From the philosophical point of view of no such thing as good or bad, regarding piercings,.....I was just posing the point that there exists an imaginary line between lots of piercings....and stigmatophilia. "Lots" being a very relative and flexible word.
Who is to say that there is anything bad about the conditions of Mysophilia or Klismaphilia...???
I'm just a clinician...and those are just words we use as identifiers.
dave partington
Crazy Dave
To Quote Mae West:
People who are easily shocked need to get shocked more
People who are easily shocked need to get shocked more
vetusvates
Gamaliel's Principle
:roflmao: :roflmao:
sweet~nichole~marie
Tallulah's Mama
Wow, there is a lot going on in this thread that I could comment on, but I think I will just stick to the original question so as not to get into trouble with anyone . . .
I have had my tongue pierced for 12 years. It was my 3rd piercing and a 21st birthday present from my best friend so I am emotionally attached to it. I have had no problems with it, love it, and will most likely have it until I am old and gray.
The pain itself was not as much as my other piercings, and healed very quickly. If you rinse after every meal and follow aftercare instructions, it should heal pretty fast. My tongue was swollen for ~2 days, but I sucked on ice cubes for the 1st 48 hrs and that helped a lot. I did talk a little funny while it was swollen, but it wasn't too bad.
The worst part is the clamp, and them having to stretch your tongue out so they can pierce it . . .you end up drooling all over yourself because you can't swallow very well while they are doing that. The pain is sharp, but over very quickly and goes away quickly (I think). Then, it just is sore for a few days.
As for taking out the piercing/job issues: You can't leave your piercing out for very long because the tongue will heal up fairly quickly. It is not like an ear that tends to stay open even after months of not wearing an earring. I have had friends that have taken out theirs for a day and then had to really force the stud back through. You can get flesh colored tops for the stud that aren't noticeable at all. I worked with people for over a year that never noticed I had my tongue pierced. People tend to notice piercings because some people tend to play with theirs a lot: clinking it against their teeth and rolling it around. This is a bad habit to get into because it can chip your teeth and cause micro-fractures in your teeth. But, as I said above, I have had mine for 12 years and my last dental xrays showed NO fractures . . .The key is to make sure you shorten the stud after the swelling goes down and put a small ball on it to minimize clanking . . .and DON'T play with it.
I have had no problems with eating, or getting food stuck in it. The ball rests snugly against my tongue and seals off the opening. Also, because your tongue is so muscular, it tends to form around the post, filling in any gaps.
The main thing is to think about what you really want and decide for yourself. People will always have opinions be it on what you wear, how you talk, if you have tattoos or piercings, etc. The important thing to remember is that you can't ever please everyone and why should you want to? I had a job that hired me with my tongue piercing and then after 4 years tried to tell me I needed to take it out. I told them I'd rather quit, they hired me knowing I had it and they would just have to deal with it. I told them that I would put in a flesh colored acrylic ball so it was less noticeable but that was it. They ended up being ok with that.
Ok, I can see that I am starting to go off on one of my tangents/soap boxes so it is time for me to wrap this up. Hope some of this helps . . .
Grrrr, ok, one last comment because I just can't let it go. . .there are NO piercings that are strictly for one sexual orientation. Gay, straight, male, female . . .it DOESN'T matter, do it because you WANT to, not because of what others (who might have a narrow vision of this world) will think of it
I have had my tongue pierced for 12 years. It was my 3rd piercing and a 21st birthday present from my best friend so I am emotionally attached to it. I have had no problems with it, love it, and will most likely have it until I am old and gray.
The pain itself was not as much as my other piercings, and healed very quickly. If you rinse after every meal and follow aftercare instructions, it should heal pretty fast. My tongue was swollen for ~2 days, but I sucked on ice cubes for the 1st 48 hrs and that helped a lot. I did talk a little funny while it was swollen, but it wasn't too bad.
The worst part is the clamp, and them having to stretch your tongue out so they can pierce it . . .you end up drooling all over yourself because you can't swallow very well while they are doing that. The pain is sharp, but over very quickly and goes away quickly (I think). Then, it just is sore for a few days.
As for taking out the piercing/job issues: You can't leave your piercing out for very long because the tongue will heal up fairly quickly. It is not like an ear that tends to stay open even after months of not wearing an earring. I have had friends that have taken out theirs for a day and then had to really force the stud back through. You can get flesh colored tops for the stud that aren't noticeable at all. I worked with people for over a year that never noticed I had my tongue pierced. People tend to notice piercings because some people tend to play with theirs a lot: clinking it against their teeth and rolling it around. This is a bad habit to get into because it can chip your teeth and cause micro-fractures in your teeth. But, as I said above, I have had mine for 12 years and my last dental xrays showed NO fractures . . .The key is to make sure you shorten the stud after the swelling goes down and put a small ball on it to minimize clanking . . .and DON'T play with it.
I have had no problems with eating, or getting food stuck in it. The ball rests snugly against my tongue and seals off the opening. Also, because your tongue is so muscular, it tends to form around the post, filling in any gaps.
The main thing is to think about what you really want and decide for yourself. People will always have opinions be it on what you wear, how you talk, if you have tattoos or piercings, etc. The important thing to remember is that you can't ever please everyone and why should you want to? I had a job that hired me with my tongue piercing and then after 4 years tried to tell me I needed to take it out. I told them I'd rather quit, they hired me knowing I had it and they would just have to deal with it. I told them that I would put in a flesh colored acrylic ball so it was less noticeable but that was it. They ended up being ok with that.
Ok, I can see that I am starting to go off on one of my tangents/soap boxes so it is time for me to wrap this up. Hope some of this helps . . .
Grrrr, ok, one last comment because I just can't let it go. . .there are NO piercings that are strictly for one sexual orientation. Gay, straight, male, female . . .it DOESN'T matter, do it because you WANT to, not because of what others (who might have a narrow vision of this world) will think of it